Leaving Him Behind: Cutting the Cord and Breaking Free After the Marriage Ends

Based on over 200 interviews and 13 years of counseling experience, psychologist Sandra Kahn has written the first guide to offer help to women whose unresolved issues keep them emotionally bound to their ex-husbands, even years after a divorce is final. • Does your ex-husband still have the key to your house? • Does your anger about your divorce prevent you from trusting in new relationships? • Do you allow yourself to be seduced by your ex-husband and then hate yourself for letting it happen?   If you said yes to any of the above, you may be a victim of the ex-wife syndrome. Psychotherapist Sandra S. Kahn has observed time and again that divorced women often find it difficult to separate from their ex-husbands, even when the marriage is over. Held captrive by strong emotions—fear, anger, shame, even love—they relive the past when they need to make a break and forge a new, self-sufficient life. In Leaving Him Behind, Kahn helps women to recognize how they are still trapped by a marriage gone bad—and what they can do about it. She offers a step-by-step program to regain self-confidence and independence. Praise for Leaving Him Behind “Chock full of advice any divorced woman could use.”—The Toronto Star   “Thoughtful . . . Helpful . . . Long-divorced women could benefit from [her] advice.”—The Cincinnati Post   “How to transform . . . into a self-sufficient matriarch, capable of assuming full responsibility for oneself and one’s children . . . Useful hard-nose advice.”—Kirkus Reviews