Who's in Your Room? Revised and Updated: The Question That Will Change Your Life

People may be out of your life, but they're still in your head. Learn how to control the ongoing psychological impact of all your relationships and achieve happiness, success, and fulfillment.

Who’s in Your Room? is a metaphor and a method for understanding how our relationships, past and present, impact our lives.

Imagine that you live your entire life in one room. Inside are all the people with whom you have ever had a relationship. The room is infinitely large, and anyone you let in will be in your room for the rest of your life. Neurologists report that as far as your brain is concerned, the metaphor is real—memories and emotions continue to influence you, for better or worse, long after their external cause has disappeared. So who do you want in your room?

Stewart Emery, a pioneer of the human potential movement, and Ivan Misner, known as the father of modern business networking, present a highly effective process for determining who should be in your room, where in the room they should be (close to the door or off in a corner?), and how to shape your room to reflect your values and your life’s purpose. This tool has unlimited usefulness for taking control of your life.